I would but I don't want to step in any horsesh!t.
The terms of the offer changed. Alan clarified that he was extending the deadline. You could have asked for your money and cards back. You choose not too, therefore you accepted the terms of the modified offer. I don't think he is AWOL at this point and in fact, indicated he was not cashing your check until the signing. Maybe Grant has not gotten the cards back. Alan could certainly clarify that. I think he has made good on all his deals and he runs this site. I don't see him starting now. And while I do know Alan, have graphed with him in the past, and consider him a friend, since I have not seen him in 20 years a long lost friend at this point, I ain't stroking his c*ck. He is as full of crap as the rest of us and especially full of it on the Rutschman signing. But that is besides the point. If anyone else was running this signing in the same way Alan was, I would say the same things.
I never said you were ruining the hobby. I just said that the lack of courtesy is, as are dealers and using kiddos, as well as inconsiderate tools who won't call anybody over, but will jump in front of those that do, those who don't say thank you, those who don't seem to know what a roster is and constantly ask who a player is, those who make no attempt to even try to look at the back of a card or a roster to see there is only one 6'9' black or hispanic player and ask who it is when they come out. Pretty much anybody who got into the hobby with the advent of the internet, eBay etc, minus a few exceptions, have ruined it.
Bottom line dude, life is too short to piss and moan so much over some signed cards. Save that for more important things like medications not coming in when they should have, a missed paycheck, etc.
Good luck in life and your graphing!